COPING AFTER THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE

TO TRULY FEEL PEACE AGAIN AND TO BE ABLE TO HEAL AFTER A LOSS OF A LOVED ONE, THERE ARE CERTAIN TOOLS AVAILABLE TO HELP A PERSON COPE; TOOLS SUCH AS A SUPPORT GROUP WHERE YOU DONT FEEL ISOLATED IN THINKING THAT YOUR THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN FEEL THIS KIND OF PAIN. THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS THAT CAN PROVIDE MANY TOOLS TO GRIEVING FAMILIES; AND PROVIDING A TOOL SUCH AS MEDIUMSHIP CAN PROVE TO BE A VERY HEALING EXPERIENCE. BY HAVING EVIDENTIAL DISCERNMENT OF MEDIUMSHIP WE BEGIN LETTING GO OF FEAR. FEAR OF DEATH AND DYING; FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN AND WHAT LIES BEYOND THIS WORLD; AND FEAR THAT WHEN OUR TIME HERE ON EARTH IS DONE WE DON'T JUST TURN OUT THE LIGHTS BUT WE CONTINUE TOWARDS THE LIGHT; WE CONTINUE FULL-FILLING OUR SOUL'S MISSION ON THE OTHER SIDE. AS A MEDIUM MYSELF I AM CONTINUALLY TOLD BY THE OTHER-SIDE THAT OUR LOVED ONES WHO HAVE CROSSED OVER ARE NO LONGER BOUND BY THE LIMITATIONS OF THEIR PHYSICAL MIND, BUT RATHER THEY ARE LIMITLESS IN THEIR THOUGHTS AND LEARNING TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS REALLY ALL THERE IS. MANY OF US HAVE FORGOTTEN THAT WE GO BACK TO THE SAME PLACE WHERE WE ALL ORIGINATED FROM. WE ARE ONLY GOING BACK HOME. IF WE CAN ONLY REMEMBER THAT WHO WE TRULY ARE IS NOT OUR BODIES, THEN WE CAN UNDERSTAND OUR MISSION HERE ON EARTH AS A SOUL. OUR BODIES ARE ONLY THE ENCASEMENT OF OUR SOUL. OUR SOUL IS ENDLESS, TIMELESS AND IS FREE FROM PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES. MANY OF US HAVE A DIFFICULT TIME LETTING GO AND SAYING GOODBYE WHEN SOMEONE WE LOVE DIES. SAYING GOODBYE IS A WAY FOR THE MIND TO REALIZE THAT THE PERSON IS GONE PHYSICALLY; IT DOES NOT DISMISS THE PERSON OR END THE OPPORTUNITY TO SPEAK TO HIM OR HER AGAIN. WE MUST REMEMBER THAT LIFE IS A NEVER-ENDING CYCLE. OUR LOVED ONES NEVER DIE; THEY SIMPLY CHANGE FORM . THE METAMORPHOSIS IS AS BEAUTIFUL AS A BUTTERFLY EMERGING FROM A COCOON THE FOLLOWING ARE A FEW TIPS THAT CAN HELP YOU OR SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU, AFTER LOSING SOMEONE TO DEATH.

• As much as you can, try and keep your routine as normal as possible (i.e., no major moves or changes). No financial decisions should be made either at a time like this. Rely on someone you trust if decisions like this must be made.

• Don't forget to eat, even if you don't have an appetite, try and force yourself to eat; even if it is a few bites or a yogurt and some fruit. The last thing anyone needs at a time like this is for you to get sick because of a weak or low resistance.

• Try and rest or sleep as much as possible. You may not want to, but you will need your strength, especially if there are other family members who depend on you.

• Avoid relying on excess medications to dull the pain; they can become very addicting. To avoid feeling any pain is delaying the grieving process. Some people feel the reality of their loss up to ten years after their loved one's death. It is better to learn coping skills sooner rather than later.

• Surround yourself with loving, caring, supportive people who are there to sustain and help you get through this trying time.

• Talk to others who have had similar losses; it helps to know that you are not the only one who ever went through this and it is helpful to get great advice from someone who has survived the worst of it who can share how they get through their loss day by day.

• Keep yourself busy. An idol mind is a playground for negative thoughts. Be creative. Journal, paint, build or draw to express your intense feelings. Sometimes it helps to write your feelings down but I suggest that you do not re-read what you wrote. The goal is to release the feelings but not to relive them by re-reading it.

• Rely on your faith. Turning to your spiritual side is usually heightened during a crisis. You may find that your strength lies in a religious person, organization or prayer and meditation.

• Try not to think about ways in which you could have had the power to change or alter the outcome of your loved one's death. Remember, our fate is so much bigger than one person. Our soul's contract or agreement has been put into effect prior to our arrival here. No one can alter that contract except the person who made it and his/her maker.

• Find a way to keep your loved one's memory alive. Talk about your loved one who has crossed. They are not only a memory; they had very real lives and have impacted more people than you may even know about. Include them in your daily routine in your thoughts. Think of them when you eat their favorite food or go to their favorite place. They are usually just a thought away and when you think or talk about them, it's like your calling their name out loud. Try and feel their presence and definitely ASK THEM FOR A SIGN. They love letting you know they are there.

• Finally, I recommend you cope with your grief one day at a time, one hour at a time or even one minute at a time. God will always give us the grace that we need in order to move forward.

ORGANIZATIONS THAT I RECOMMEND FOR GRIEVING FAMILIES: http://www.after-death.com/Default.aspx http://www.foreverfamilyfoundation.org/ http://www.copefoundation.org/ http://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx Thank you for stopping by and visiting. I hope this information may be useful to you or someone you love. Remember to mark you calendars for Monday evening, February 7th. I will be at Villa Marcello Restaurant in Valley Stream. Join me as I deliver messages from your loved ones who have crossed on over to the other side. Do not miss this spectacular event.