How To Understand Your Empathetic Child

Let me start off by saying that it has been a very fruitful summer for me and a very rewarding one. As I sit here and type, the coffee is brewing, the back screen door is open and a cool breeze is permeating the room. This is a clear reminder to me that summer is over and its time to get back to business. No more vacations for a while and children are back to their routines of school, homework and extra curricular activities. I say thank God to that. As I sit across my picture window, I see mothers outside with their children anxiously waiting for the school bus to take them to their first day of school. I immediately remember that sinking feeling that I used to get on the first day of a new school year, anticipating my new teachers and their personalities and how I will feel in my new surroundings. I always wondered why the summer time always represented safety to me and I look back now and I realize so many things that I would have never figured out back then. If your reading this blog and you were a child or have a child that you feel shares the same safety feeling during their summer break, I want to help you to understand why this may be occurring. I want to introduce a word to you that you may not have heard before; or if you have, you never really knew the true meaning of the word itself. The word is “Empath” which is derived from the word “Empathy” Having empathy means that you are compassionate person and one who feels not only your own feelings, but the feelings of others. Do you think that you were an EC (Empathetic Child), or do you have one? Emotions and feelings are felt from a person’s heart center and I offer the following examples to help your child keep their heart center open and healthy in order to give and receive love in their adulthood. When a person feels emotions from their heart and not their head, empathy cannot help but follow. In fact, studies have shown that empathy is an essential life skill that is widely responsible for a high success rate in adults, even more than if they had a high IQ level. Being able to feel and understand one’s own emotions, as well as the feelings of others, can lead to a high level of self-control in today’s society. Your EC is not limited to feeling the emotions of others who are geographically close to them but they have the ability to feel what is going on with people they love who even live far away, such as an aunt or a grandparent and they are able to transcend into time and space and connect with energies who are in another dimension. The finest Mediums are extremely empathetic. I receive many emails each week from people who feel that their children are psychic or “gifted”. I am writing this blog to give you a small glimpse into the world of a gifted child. If you think about many psychics in the world, they are also called “Sensitives”. Being sensitive to energy is a common thread that all gifted psychics share. Energy is very real in its nature and has been proven, over and over, in theory, that it cannot be destroyed. Everyone and everything has an energy field, otherwise known as an aura and contained in this auric field are energetic vibrations or frequencies that are very real to the (EC) Empathetic Child. These frequencies can be detected way beyond the five senses. There are many different energy feelings that one can experience but I like to break it down to two categories – POSITIVE ENERGY – and NEGATIVE ENERGY. Children are born innocent, without the knowledge of negativity. The world around us is what creates negative experiences; in turn it creates negative thoughts, feelings and emotions. Being an Empath usually is genetic in families and is an amazing ability to be born with. If you have the ability to feel what others feel, you can certainly help understand more about the world and people in general. Here are just a few signs that you can look for to notice your child has a heightened sense of Empathy: 1. They will often avoid large crowds such as playgrounds. For example: You will find If there is a playground filled with children, your psychic kid will often go off into his own little world in the corner where there may be two or three children. Because they are Sensitive to energy that surrounds them, they will often feel overwhelmed with too much activity, noise or commotion. It can be a real problem when your child begins to go to school. Many classrooms are over crowded these days, leaving your child on over drive until they come home and wind down. They will also exhibit signs of shyness in large crowds but will be more talkative at home with their familiar surroundings with the familiar energy of their family. 2. The other side of the coin can be that your child will act out physically or emotionally in larger crowds but will be more mellow in nature at home or in their safe environment. They are only trying to find an outlet to neutralize the overwhelming flow of incoming energy or feelings that are not theirs in the first place. 3. Often resists going to bed and constantly wakes up during the night, usually climbing into bed with their parents where they feel safe and secure trying to center themselves. 4. Develops a low immune system and catches infections very easily, especially ear infections. This is the child’s way of withdrawing from society for the duration of the illness in order to re-group and filter out any unwanted emotions, especially the uncomfortable ones. The conscious mind does not do this on purpose, but the subconscious mind does. 5. They are very attracted to anyone who needs help in a situation. Animals and anything to do with nature is very appealing to your EC, as they are often drawn to the “Oneness” or “Wholeness” of the universe. You will often find your EC to want to save all of the pets in the neighborhood, and they usually have, or beg to have, more than one pet. Even having a fish can bring great comfort to the Empath. Oh, but be prepared to have an elaborate funeral for Mr. Fish if God forbid anything happens to him and make sure you are prepared to help your child grieve for as long as they need (even though you may only view it as a “fish”). 6. EC often want to be outdoors; whether playing in the sandbox, touching the earth, or just playing in the mud, your EC will find it difficult to stay indoors, even in the cold winter months. 7. Empaths are often very affectionate in their personality and are Peacemakers. Most likely as your EC grows up, they will be of service to others, putting their own needs and wants aside. Many nurses, teachers, firefighters, policemen, etc. have signed on with a soul contract to help the planet and all its inhabitants and the universe. 8. On the flip side, your EC can have major mood swings that will have others around them walking on eggshells. With the overwhelming feelings of others that they can experience, if it is not understood, their moods can fluctuate from one minute to the next. They can be flying on a cloud one second and in the next second, they can be as depressed or miserable as the person who sits down next to them. Although being an Empathic Child can have its benefits on a large scale, there are also downsides for your EC. If they are not understood or supported by the outside world or the inner family circle, bottled up emotions can grow, which in turn, can cause a huge barriers with major walls being built around one’s inner most feelings, thoughts and emotions. When emotions are held inside and are not released or filtered out, this can lead to explosive and crippling behavior and can result in a mental and emotional breakdown of the child’s psyche, in turn, creating physical ailments, illnesses or disease. This is a major reason why it is so important to recognize your child’s gift of being an Empath and offering support and understanding is crucial to a healthy, vibrant life ahead. The following are a few tools that I prefer to use to help encourage your EC to control the flow of energy, thoughts and emotions that they often capture from other people’s auric fields.

• Make sure your child’s own emotional needs are met. Having a healthy support system, with caring, loving parents can give a child a solid foundation no matter what may come their way.

• Act as a positive example for your child. If there seems to be a great deal of tension in your home with arguing and yelling, your child will be the recipient of these emotions and they will need to filter them somehow. If you keep your composure in a difficult situation and deal with the problem in a positive manner, you will teach your child how to do the same.

• Teach your child to cope with emotions, Positive or negative. For example: If a child experiences anger, teach him that that is not the best emotion to use to handle a situation and teach them problem solving ways to achieve more positive results. On the other hand, if your child experiences a positive emotion, make a fuss or praise them if need be i.e., telling them that how wonderful it is that they share their toys so nicely with their siblings and friends.

• If your child is behaving in a certain way that is not favorable, pick a focal point and have them look there (looking into your eyes is a good place to start) bringing them back to center and explain to them to put themselves in the other person’s shoes and see how they made the other person feel. They will surely be able to master this task.

• When the excess energy becomes unbearable for your child to release and they begin to get physical or start acting out, have them do a simple breathing exercise with you. Taking a deep breath in through their nose, counting to four and releasing the breath through their mouth. Do this exercise with them for about a minute until they regroup and refocus. It can help them feel more empowered and in control of the OWN feelings.

• Last, but not least, teach your child that energy is very real and although we cannot see it, it certainly does exist. Understand all you can about the human aura and how thoughts are also energy, good or bad. That is why they say “be careful what you wish for or say” because thoughts are vibrations of energy that flow into the universe and can pick up speed, allowing for the thought or feeling to manifest into reality. The universe does not discriminate against energy. Positive or negative. So be mindful of whom your EC wish to surround themselves with and if they do not have a choice, teach them to visualize an energetic barrier around their own aura, protecting them from any outside energy influences. My favorite technique is having them visualize a bubble of white light from God coming in from the heavens, reaching all of the way down around their feet, encasing them in an egg shaped sphere of protective light (with no holes, rips or tears). If your child is too young to do this exercise, do it for them. I recommend doing this a minimum of three (3) times in a day. This impression of white protective light will take root immediately, but, the more you do it, the more effective it will be.

I hope you found this blog very helpful. Please remember to Join me at The Bayview Restaurant In Broad Channel Queens on Saturday evening, October 1, 2011. Check my website for details. Also, please look for my upcoming Halloween Psychic Fair at the end of October. Details also will be on my site. I enjoyed spending some time with you. Until next time, may you spread Peace, Love, Joy & especially Happiness. ~ Psychic Medium Kim Russo a/k/a “The Happy Medium”

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